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BOOK REVIEW: Unlovable No More (2024)

From Self-Doubt to Soulmate

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By Helen Johnson
Independent Cultural Critic | Arts & Culture Commentary

 

Introduction

With Unlovable No More: A Journey from Self-Doubt to Soulmate (2024), Mayowa-David Oluwatosin Risikat offers perhaps her most intimate and psychologically layered work to date. Where her earlier texts help readers break toxic patterns, this one provides a roadmap for rebuilding love from within.

Love as an Inside-Out Process

The book begins by acknowledging the abyss of self-doubt that so often shapes our experiences of intimacy. It then guides readers through confronting the inner critic, cultivating self-compassion, and preparing for authentic relational readiness.

By weaving together personal anecdotes, neuroscience, and practical exercises, Risikat situates healing as an inside-out process. Unlike conventional relationship guides, it does not prescribe external strategies to “get love”—it insists on becoming love.

Psychological and Cultural Significance

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The foreword describes this book as “a healing companion, a mirror, and a roadmap,” and it lives up to that promise. It is not prescriptive, but transformational, inviting readers to embody the love they desire.

Critique: Some sections—particularly on neuroscience and emotional healing—could have benefited from more localized African cultural contexts, showing how global psychology intersects with lived realities. Still, its universal language ensures global resonance.

Contribution to Arts and Culture

  • Expands Relationship Literature: Reframes love as self-embodiment rather than transactional pursuit.
  • Bridges Cultures: Blends African-rooted perspectives with universal psychological insights.
  • Empowers Identity: Shows that self-worth is the foundation of cultural and personal renewal.

Final Reflection

Unlovable No More is not just a book about relationships—it is a cultural artefact of healing. By redefining self-worth and positioning love as a process of growth, Risikat contributes to a global conversation about identity, resilience, and cultural belonging.

💡 Key Takeaway: You are not “too broken” or “too late.” Healing begins with embracing your worth, and from there, love follows naturally.

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